Whether we’re aware of it or not we all feel shame about some aspect of ourselves. Shame is an emotion that makes us want to hide/run away/cover up. This affects our interactions with others. Some of us feel painstakingly shy, others compensate by being the life of the party. There’s a reason why alcohol is so popular at social events.
If you are socialising this weekend and you get in touch with some part of it that makes you nervous, be kind to yourself. Instead of telling yourself, “I’m so awkward”, remember that we are all “awkward”! It takes us some time to figure out how to be together.
If you feel nervous in social situations, you can support yourself with deep inhales and slow exhales. Make eye contact with people you don’t know and smile. After a while, the strangers won’t seem so scary anymore. They’re just people…like you and like me.
What are your main worries when you socialise? How do you support yourself?