Skip to content

A Life I Choose

Actively design your life so you can thrive.

Welcome to A Life I Choose
Blog
Design Your Life

Facebook
Instagram
Twitter
Pinterest
YouTube

Search

Search for:

How to discipline kids: Punishment is OUT, Empathy is IN

Posted on October 24, 2016June 13, 2017

by Emma Hogg, Founder of A Life I Choose

Check out the piece I wrote for Fit Malta Mums. Based on the most up-to-date research and what it consistently teaches us, I give 3 guidelines on how to raise self-disciplined, honest human beings 🙂

Share this:

Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)
Click to print (Opens in new window)

Like this:

Like Loading...

Related

Posted in Blog, Children, HomeTagged child psychology, Children, emotional regulation, empathy, family, family dynamics, good behaviour, how to discipline, how to raise kids, how to teach kids, kids, obedience, Relationships, right from wrong, self-discipline, why punishment doesn't work

Published by

Emma Hogg, Founder of A Life I Choose

It is extremely important to me that as many people as possible do not suck at life. I’m a Psychotherapist and Life & Joy Strategist; I teach my clients to actively design their lives so that they can thrive. Don't be a sucker; overcome any obstacles and choose to live purposefully, passionately and joyfully. View all posts by Emma Hogg, Founder of A Life I Choose

Post navigation

Previous Post Be the best version of yourself by getting better sleep

Next Post How to let go of hurtful comments

2 thoughts on “How to discipline kids: Punishment is OUT, Empathy is IN”

3 books for a more fulfilling family life – A Life I Choose March 7, 201712:36 pm Reply

[…] and understanding. The second book discusses connecting with children and teaching them to become self-disciplined by understanding their emotions. The third book is about the Danish tradition of hygge, and how to […]

LikeLike
How to let go of hurtful comments – A Life I Choose June 13, 20179:54 pm Reply

[…] person who passes nasty comments is a bit like a child behaving badly – they are experiencing emotions that they don’t know how to cope […]

LikeLike

How do you feel? x Cancel reply

Enter your comment here...

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

Email (Address never made public)

Name

Website

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change )

You are commenting using your Google+ account. ( Log Out / Change )

You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change )

You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Notify me of new comments via email.

Notify me of new posts via email.

Stay in touch

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 1,483 other followers

Looking for something?

Search for:

Top Posts & Pages

A Life I Choose has a YouTube channel!

Do you want more inspiration & practical tips to create the life you want? Check out the “A Life I Choose” YouTube channel.

Search Topics

Search Topics

Welcome to A Life I Choose

Hi! I’m Emma. It is extremely important to me that as many people as possible do not suck at life. I’m a Psychotherapist and Life & Joy Strategist; I teach my clients to actively design their lives so that they can thrive. Don’t be a sucker; overcome any obstacles and choose to live purposefully, passionately and joyfully.

Follow Blog to be notified on latest posts

Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 1,483 other followers

Join the Conversation on Facebook

A Life I Choose

Promote Your Page Too

A Life I Choose Community

Follow my Insta Pics & Stories

I had so much fun speaking at this event with my sisters at @she.malta! Such a great opportunity to meet curious, insightful people to discuss how to keep evolving into a world where women and men having equal opportunity and choice will be the norm! Discussion helps us understand each other! Let's keep doing it! #paddypower #iamshemalta #genderdiversity #feminism #alifeichoose

No matter what #lifegoals you have, the obstacle standing in your way is fear. We typically don't even notice we're fearful. Instead we say we're stressed. But beneath all stress, is fear. The only way to succeed at creating a life you love, is to be able to notice your fear and overcome it. Go to @emma_alifeichoose for the link to a visualisation I've designed to help you overcome fear and set goals. You can use this visualisation to help you prepare for challenging upcoming events. If you practice it consistently, overcoming fear will become habitual, and you'll be able to create anything you want in life. For one-on-one guidance with overcoming the challenges that stand in the way of your dream life, sign up for your free Lifestyle Strategy Session with me by emailing emma@alifeichoose.com. #goals #overcomefear #livealifeyoulove #lifedesign #mindfulliving #ownyourlife #lifestylestrategy #lifeandjoystrategist #psychotherapist #alifeichoose

The other day, a friend of mine told me that she would love to run her own business one day but she has no idea what she wants to do. The conversation made me remember the first months of A Life I Choose and how all over the place I felt. I didn't know where I was gng. My service wasn't defined. I started with a blog and that's it. I told her that the one skill every entrepreneur needs to have is the ability to tolerate discomfort. Doing what you love comes with challenges. Defining your service, learning how to communicate that service to potential clients, figuring out pricing, collaborations, negotiations...all this comes with great excitement and also great challenge. You never know which decision is gng to win and which is gng to flop. You're on the edge of your comfort zone constantly. It feels amazing cos you're constantly growing! At the same time, it constantly tests you: it generates fear and can make you wish you were reaching success way faster than you are. Patience, or as I call it, the ability to tolerate discomfort - the ability to go slow, to feel it out, to define yourself, to grow authentically and not be tempted to run after the euros - is the entrepreneur's best friend. With patience you will see how the energy you put in 2 years ago paid off in a big way now. Or how the struggle you went through 15 years ago gave you the insight you need to fuel your business. Stay patient. Be consistent. Keep playing at your comforts edge. It will pay off. Quote @marieforleo. Incredibly insightful entrepreneur, check her out if you haven't already! #entrepreneurship #womeninbusiness #passionateliving #designyourlife #loveyourlife #alifeichoose

Sending some love to all my @she.malta sisters! Looking forward to our next event and to connecting with you all again! #networking #womencommunity #womenbuildupotherwomen #entrepreneurship #alifeichoose @youandmedia.marketing @fitmaltamums @angelesatariano @served_magazine @joanna.delia @hollzpiz @abirdwithafrenchfry_ @elliecarl1 @yanasjewellery @flavoursforhealth @grechandco @love_laugh_live_repeat @amberwismayer @kekstor_ @sanyamalta @agnesgramala @sthfromnth179 @maracamilleri @jocaruana @vanessacoleiro @carlagrima @lctfitnessmalta @majda2me

Are you going to wait until you're financially wealthy to feel abundant or will you allow yourself to be abundant right now? Abundance is a state of mind, not the amount sitting in your bank acct. If you're not living a life you enjoy then you're poor, my friend. This is a pic of Pete setting up his windsurfer. He loves windsurfing and I see it so clearly cos he comes back from every surf glowing! Doing what you love fills you up. When you're filled with goodness, you feel good, you look good and you bring goodness to others. You owe it to yourself and to those around you to live a life you love. Sign up for your complimentary Lifestyle Strategy Session with me, so you can create the life you want. Link @emma_alifeichoose. #livealifeyoulove #designyourlife #thrive #bejoyful #befree #beabundant #bepeaceful #befulloflove #lifestylestrategy #lifeandjoystrategist #psychotherapist #alifeichoose

When we acknowledge the blessings in our lives, it is very difficult to be in a state of suffering. From the little to the big...From your cup of tea to the special ppl in your life...There is always something beautiful to recognise every moment of everyday, no matter how dire the situation is. Do you choose to see the beauty or not? Quote by @kellybroganmd #choice #choicefulness #mindfulness #psychotherapy #lifeandjoystrategist #lifegoals #coach #joy #freedom #malta #alifeichoose

Have you heard of the Magic Relationship Ratio? In the 1970s Dr John Gottman and Robert Levenson began conducting longitudinal studies with couples. They asked them to resolve a conflict in 15 minutes, and watched them do this. 9 years later, they connected with these same couples, and found that they were able to predict with 90% accuracy which couples would stay together and which would divorce. The difference between those who enjoyed their relationships and those who didn't was simple: it was the balance between positive and negative interactions during conflict. The magic ratio is 5:1. So, for every 1 negative interaction, there have to be at least 5 positive ones. It's so easy for us to focus on the bad in our relationships or on what needs to be improved. But when we only point out what needs to be improved, we create an environment of "never good enough" and this doesn't feel like a good place to be. It's good to notice what could be improved in your relationship: you want to keep growing together, so constructive feedback is important - disagreements are important and healthy! But be mindful of injecting fun, playfulness, appreciation and laughter into your day-to-day. No one wants to feel like they can never get it right. Everyone wants to feel valued and appreciated. It's the little things that make the big things. If you want a joyful partnership start paying attention to the 5:1 ratio. Do it consistently and you will experience the change. #gottman #relationships #couples #love #growthful #conscious #choiceful #lifeandjoystrategist #psychotherapist #malta #alifeichoose

Success doesn't come to us in one big hit. We create it with the small actions we take every single day. You won't feel like you're doing anything major in these moments. But eventually you'll look back and see that you've made major progress! Be sure to actively design your life! It's only by having a blueprint that you'll get to where you want to be. The life you imagine is attainable, but you've got to work towards it. If you want to create a life you love, check out Lifestyle Strategy Sessions (Link @emma_alifeichoose). A system designed to support you to get crystal-clear on your goals and to challenge you to take the action necessary to achieve them. Be the person you want to be. You deserve it. Image quote by @melrobbinslive #entrepreneurship #scienceofachievement #success #dontsuckatlife #lifestylestrategising #lifeandjoystrategist #psychotherapist #malta #alifeichoose

Leave me a hell yeah if you agree with this beautiful quote by Thich Nhat Hanh 👇 #lifemeaning #purpose #love #howtonotsuckatlife #begoodness #receivegoodness #givegoodness #lifeandjoystrategist #alifeichoose

What can you do when your sexual excitement starts to dip in a long-term relationship? Learn how to prime yourself mentally to send cues to your body to be wanting, receptive and ready for sex. Link @emma_alifeichoose With @melkelly999 @xfm100.2 #podcast #radio #sex #relationships #happiness #fulfilment #lifeandjoystrategist #lifecoach #alifeichoose

Don't be so cocky. Stay curious, stay open. Life is a big, messy, paradoxically, beautiful mystery. If you're acting like you've got it all figured out, you're doing precisely that: acting. Repost @trewrussellbrand #themysteriesoflife #weloverussell #lifeandjoystrategist #alifeichoose

Even though it can be majorly uncomfortable, it's a good thing to disagree, and even argue with your partner. Through arguing/discourse, we give ourselves the chance to understand how we feel about things, and how our partner feels. Our arguments are our "shitty first drafts" (to borrow from @brenebrown)... they tend to come out messy and anything but eloquent. So long as your goal isn't to win (and therefore, for your partner to lose), you will find a way to meet each other. Talk to connect and not to be correct. Celebrate your differences - they give your relationship strength. Repost @jayshetty

Post-swim, messy hair, relaxing togetherness. #grateful #belonging #play

The quality of the food we eat impacts the quality of energy and wellness we experience. The quality of the thoughts we think impacts the quality of resourcefulness and joy we experience. Choose the best quality. You and our world deserve it. Quote by @markhymanmd #lifeandjoystrategist #alifeichoose

Experience the excitement of sexual aliveness without the devastation of betrayal. Link to blog post @emma_alifeichoose Tune into @xfm100.2 at 9 tonight when @melkelly999 and I will discuss how to channel the erotic elements of affairs into your long-term relationship to stay sexually passionate. #sexualrelationships #romanticrelationships #affairs #cheating #love #couplestherapy #lifecoach #malta #psychotherapist #lifeandjoystrategist #alifeichoose

Today a friend of mine asked what it's like to be married for 3 years. I told her that what I really like about my relationship with Pete is that we've created such a safe base with each other and that we don't stop there. I love that we use the safety we share to reach out into the world and grow. Pete's presence in my life fills me with gratitude. Even with all the growing pains we experience (growth isn't comfortable), I would rather grow with him than without him. He is my most blessed coincidence and I thank God for bringing us together. Thank you, Pete, for choosing me day after day. Your heart makes my daily decision an easy one! #love #marriage #anniversary #relationships #alifeichoose

I love this quote by @tonyrobbins The way we begin our day sets the tone for the rest of the day. How do you set yourself up for a good day? Do you meditate? Work-out? Practice gratitude? Read? Write? Just breathe with a cup of tea? #setyourselfup #supportyourself #goodday #attitude #success #morningroutine #choicefulliving #lifeandjoystrategist #lifecoach #psychotherapist #malta #alifeichoose

Beautiful quote by Roald Dahl. Keep dreaming... Everything ever created was just someone's imagination first. Create the life you imagine - the one that fills you with energy! Believe in the magic! #imagination #alifeyoudreamof #lifeandjoystrategist #lifecoach #psychotherapist #alifeichoose

Archives

Archives

A WordPress.com Website.

Send to Email Address Your Name Your Email Address

Cancel

Post was not sent - check your email addresses!

Email check failed, please try again

Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.

%d bloggers like this: