Today, I turn 30! Many people warned me that turning 30 might not feel too great. Apparently it can feel like a very official rite of passage into old-town. Honestly, I’ve had a couple of moments of realising that I’m getting older – mainly on an energy level – but, overall, I’m so excited to finally be 30! I feel like I’ve been 30 for a long time… if that makes any sense.
To celebrate, I want to share some lessons I’ve learned throughout my 30 years.
- Relationships are about balance. You’ve got to give and you’ve got to take.
- People express love in different ways. Their way may not be your preferred method, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love you.
- No matter how well-meaning your intention, you cannot change anyone. Meet others as they are.
- I am not effective at taking care of others if I don’t take care of myself first.
- Sometimes the people who are the most abusive towards us are the ones we love. Be truthful about what is not okay for you.
- Criticism can only be received when given with love.
- When love moves from emotion to choice, you’re onto something really special.
- It is okay to love someone and not like some of their behaviour.
- My health is my responsibility; not my doctor’s, not my parent’s, not my partner’s… mine.
- Listen to your body; it will tell you what it needs.
- Perfection is a myth. Be okay with “good enough”.
- Life hurts. Talk about it with someone you trust.
- It’s true that our bodies change as we get older. Don’t restrict yourself, just buy new jeans!
- The people who drain your energy affect your health. Find a way to manage them: say “no”/have others around to act as buffers/rest.
- Your emotions are physical experiences. Give them space.
- Pain is a language. Don’t panic. Listen to it. Breathe.
- There is no one-size-fits-all prescription to a healthy body. Be in tune with yourself. You are your best guide.
- There is no such thing as a health issue being solely psychological or purely physical. There is no separation between our physical and our psychological selves. All aspects of our selves need to be seen.
- In such a chaotic world, where there are few guiding principles, it is important to stand firm in your values. Know yourself.
- A rewarding act is to help another succeed. Another’s success does not mean your failure. There is space for all of us to bloom.
- Gossip and judgement helps only the gossiper to momentarily feel better about themselves. Compassion and empathy forms connections and helps people heal.
- Don’t be in a rush to make money. Put energy into being of value to your clients. Money will come.
- If you wait for the perfect moment, you’ll miss it.
- Money isn’t worth anything if you’ve burned bridges to make it and if you don’t spend it with intention.
- Commitment limits our options but increases our satisfaction.
- No matter how bad things get, there is always something to be grateful for.
- An obstacle is all-encompassing if you focus on it too closely. When you step back to view the bigger picture, you’ll see that the “obstacle” is only taking up part of the space.
- Big decision to make? Sleep on it.
- One of the greatest causes of unhappiness is giving too much importance to the space between expectation and reality.
- The graph of life looks like a heartbeat monitor: up and down. A straight line means you’re dead.