This month has been so busy with all the preparation that went into the first A Life I Choose event, “On Choicefulness”. When I first started planning the event, I didn’t think many people would attend, but we ended up having a really good turn-out, and I’m so grateful!
For those of you who missed the event, I will upload a video of the talk to my YouTube channel, so subscribe to the channel to be notified when it’s up. This past weekend I also gave a talk at Saces (the architecture student weekend of drunken creativity). We discussed how practicing mindfulness can make you more self-aware. This will also be going up on my YouTube channel, so check that out if you’re interested.
Now, onto my November Favourites…
We all seem to agree that cheating on our partners is not okay, but cheating happens a lot more than we choose to admit. When the topic comes up, we can become very moralistic about the issue, “It’s wrong; plain and simple.” But this stance, leaves us with very little understanding about why people cheat. Sometimes we blame it on the marriage being unsatisfactory, but even people in happy marriages cheat, so what’s going on there?
Perel, tells us real-life stories of couples who have experienced infidelity and weaves it in with theory in a delightfully intriguing way. The book is provocative; it makes us question our own views on the rules of marriage. It makes us wonder if any relationship is affair-proof, and it reminds us to wake up to ourselves and the person we share life with.
Still on the topic of infidelity, I watched an old movie (2004) this month and remembered how much I love it. In “Closer” we follow two couples who struggle to find satisfaction in their relationships. We watch them as they look for perfect love, longing to be desired and cherished. They doubt their ability to create the kind of love they want within their relationships, and they search for it outside themselves causing the two couples to become interlinked in a cheating foursome.
The actors capture the emotions associated with infidelity beautifully – the betrayal, the disgust, the longing, the sorrow. If you haven’t watched it, definitely give it a go.
Although, the book and movie brought me joy this month, my absolute favourite part of November was meeting you all at the A Life I Choose event and at the Saces talk. It is always beautiful for me to see how many people are interested in taking care of their wellbeing and it’s so great to share this together.
I hope to meet you all again soon.