Growing up, we were taught that to love was to be selfless. We must give our all to the other just to make them happy. As beautiful as this sounds, the truth is that when we give more than we really want to, this has disastrous consequences on our relationships. When we allow people to take from us what we’re not ready/willing to give, we’re left feeling hurt, used, and resentful.
Resentment is the cancer of relationships. When there’s a lot of that stuff, your relationship is dying quick. Saying “no” to what you don’t want is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and your partner. Saying “no” allows you and the other person to truly know where you stand with each other. This is safety, and safety is the basis for openness and connection.
We can’t have joyful, thriving relationships without saying “no”. And this is true of any kind of relationship: romantic, familial, business… This is why I feel so strongly about bringing this topic to you. When you learn to notice when you want to say “no” and then actively say it, you’ll experience a positive shift in the way you feel and are in the world.
In this video, Sexual Wellness Coach, Ken Cassar, and I discuss how to notice when you want to say “no” and how to say it.
Saying “no” to what you don’t want, stops draining your energy so that you can put it towards what you do want in your life. Get support with saying “no” so that you can create the life you want to live, instead of settling for one you feel is expected of you. Sign up for your complimentary Lifestyle Strategy Session.