I really want to speak about this with you because the majority of us know what’s like to look at someone we used to be nuts for and feel either nothing towards them, or worse, experience disgust or disappointment.
It’s something we all experience at some point or another, but there’s some unwritten rule that we’re not supposed to talk about it. If we talk about it, we could end up finding out that actually it was just me feeling this way and everyone else is over the moon in their relationships! And that would be down-right humiliating, wouldn’t it?
I’ve never been a fan of bullshit. I’d rather have an honest conversation than talk pleasantries. The reality of commitment is that it takes awareness, ownership and energy, and sometimes we fall out of love even though we really don’t want to! Perhaps if we actually spoke about these things with people who had better suggestions than “Welcome to married life!”, we’d be able to come up with more creative solutions to this interpersonal challenge.