Not sure what to do for Valentine’s Day yet? I’m back on “Let’s Talk About Sex” with Melanie Kelly on XFM100.2 to talk about how to create a celebration of love that’s a total success, without breaking your bank account.
Imagine two people who are generally bored in their lives. They go to work, watch tv, go to sleep and do the same thing the next day. They cope with life but they don’t actually enjoy it so much. When you ask these people how they are, they reply with something like, “Not bad” or “Insomma”. Now picture these two people having sex.
Did you see boring, mediocre sex?
Shake that vision out of your mind!
Do you have an in-law who drives you crazy? Do you and your partner argue about them?
Some in-laws can bring chaos to a couples’ life and you’ve got to know how to talk about it and how to cope with it to make sure it doesn’t wear and tear on your marriage.
When your partner has difficulty performing sexually, their anxiety affects you too! You could be filled with feelings of rejection, confusion, self-doubt or jealousy. We get you. What you’re going through is challenging and you absolutely shouldn’t be left alone in coping with this. That’s why we’ve made this video where we discuss how to respond to your partner when sexual performance anxiety is interfering with your intimacy.
Growing up, we were taught that to love was to be selfless. We must give our all to the other just to make them happy. As beautiful as this sounds, the truth is that when we give more than we really want to, this has disastrous consequences on our relationships. When we allow people to take from us what we’re not ready/willing to give, we’re left feeling hurt, used, and resentful.
When we were kids, we interacted with the adults around us and through them, we received a representation of how the world is. For most of us, this representation looked something like this:
Mum does most of the disciplining, the playing and housekeeping. Dad works and pays bills.