We all know someone who thinks their opinion is absolutely invaluable. Whether you’ve asked for their thoughts or not, they’re going to give them to you. And what’s even more annoying than the unsolicited advice, is that they usually give criticism rudely! You’d think that with so much practice, someone would have criticised their way of giving criticism! Well, that’s what I’m going to do right now.
A reader recently wrote to me saying that she had put a lot of energy into a project, and a colleague had criticised her work in a very harsh way. She wanted not to care, but it kept playing over and over in her head and it made her feel really angry. The feedback hurt her. She liked her project, she thought it was a good idea. She also felt she didn’t deserve to be spoken to like that. Her question for me was, “I’m often affected by negative comments from people – whether it’s my husband or a stranger. How do I let it go?“